I once thought that our nurture can be changed, that it is possible to be able to go well with someone who is totally different, and even thought that opposites attract.

I was half-right.

It really depends (the all-time generic answer for unexplained phenomena) on the person. There is no sure-fire way of being with someone, and I am now inclined to believe that it is not about nature but about nurture. In my previous relationships, I was involved with different women thus creating room for a vast array of compatibility tests.

I once honestly, stupidly, and stubbornly believed that it is enough for two people to be together in harmony by means of communication. I believed that problems, differences, and uncertainty may be reconciled by talking it out, understanding each other, and all that positivist hullabaloo.

This faux pas finally became clear to me when I met her.

At long last, I have finally found someone like me. I do not know if that is actually good for other people, but I realized my blunders as me + her (we are not yet “together”) exchanged thoughts on how things should be. I realized that it is not my nature nor nurture to be strict with “them”, but rather it was a call from my subconscious in realizing the negative tendencies “they” are prone to. I am not saying that these negative tendencies are actually wrong or offensive, but rather negative in such a way that it exceeds my expectations downward, such as smoking (though it may not be as bad for others, it is extremely negative for me, thus, subjectivity).

Going back to me + her, I realized that it is all about nurture (upbringing, school, environment, etc.) Going out with another guy, previously offensive to me, did not look so bad anymore. This previous “threat” or negative tendency I once dreaded was suddenly neutralized. Then and there I realized that it is all about trust. I guess I did not trust “them” as much before (sorry), but only until that which they deserved. I have this policy that I shall give my trust (100%) to anyone I am with, but I subconsciously broke it, but with good reason (I am always proven right eventually). Anyway, from this point on, I am starting a new chapter in my life.

Welcome aboard.

I have to apologize to the other women though, especially to those whom this applies:

I’m like an auction. I may go once, twice, and I’m gone. Hence, the opportunity of “you” and “me” being fused to form “together” will present itself to “you” maybe a time or two… But if you don’t grasp it, it’s gone. - Dar

If you can relate to this, sorry, but you had your chance. And yeah, don’t worry, you are not alone for this applies to more than 3 other women. Call me a jerk, but did you really think I am such a fool to put you on a pedestal?

And as for YOU, you know who you are miss, thanks for giving me another reason to appreciate.