I always say love should be a choice. Although it can never be absolutely and positively confirmed, and all I can do is to keep on supporting this idea. As life itself is all about experience, we never cease to learn, and therefore allowing me to further my idea of ‘choice”.
Anyway, me and my friend were talking about relationships and I was trying to convince my friend that love is a choice. As what normally happens, we have to argue about it (this goes for all the others as well). Making the long story short, turns out my argument is quite convincing and in the process, I was able to argue to her this idea:

Love as a feeling can be invoked, but choice is never tainted. -Dar

If one will rely on love as a feeling, it would be disastrous. Feelings may be invoked by a number of factors: “the moment“, “the situation“, and other stuff like that. The analogy here is to try and pinch yourself, and you feel pain… get caught up in the moment, or when you’re depressed and someone comes to you to pull you up, you feel love, then there’s also this creature called the “infatuation”.

But with choice, oh no, you are never deceived. You may be tortured be coerced to choose something, but in your mind and heart, you know that it is not what you really want.

Love as feeling could be: “I love you because have no choice since it’s you I fell in love with” initially, it seems sweet, but it could turn out to be an empty obsession.

Love as feeling is “I love you because you are the one I chose” res ipsa loquitur… enough said.

In love as feeling, you can inadvertently fall out of love, which is uncontrollable, but in choice, you only choose to fall out of it, making it more stable if you’re with a mature person (although more unstable if with an immature one).

Say your piece.