Author’s note: This is in relation with the 50 First Dates Syndrome. This is in no way made to offend the psycho-women but on the contrary help them recognize their irrational behavior within themselves and help other people understand them.
In life, I’m pretty sure you would one day get to meet a “psycho-girl”. She looks deceivingly innocent and rather normal, you eat out, hangout, chat, chill with her… and then she hands you out her love problems. It starts harmlessly as a story-telling process telling you how much of a jerk her boyfriend is… as she goes along the story, she loses part of her calm and begins the ranting process. Following the ranting process would be the pointing out of the perceived problem together with some sort of a resolution with a claim that “I have seen the light, I should blah and a blah and a blah blah blah”.
Right after the conversation, she breaks it up with her love interest.
A day after, they are back together.
Another day follows and she’s back with her story-ranting-resolution process.
Now you have a full-fledged Forgetful Lucy.
Declaration of facts -> Determination of problems -> Pseudo-enlightenment -> Conflict resolution
Symptoms:
1. Excessive rationalization
2. Redirecting blame to self
3. Failure to recognize the problem
4. Refusal to recognize the problem
5. Failure to address the problem
6. Refusal to address the problem
7. Obsessive attitude towards the guy
8. Initiates breakup and the subsequent reconciliation
9. Failure to move on
10. Recurring cycle of a love-hate relationship
These symptoms are just for starters, there are a lot of things to be observed from these women. A word of advice to those who would want to give a psycho-girl some advice: Stop giving them advices on the third cycle, it’s utterly useless. Why? They refuse to be helped. Despite their “interest” in your advice, it will only be set aside once her man gives her a petty “sorry, I love you” or “I miss you”. They always think that things will change and that even after their nth breakup, if the guy says “I promise I will make it up to you” they swoon and go back to square one.
I personally have nothing against psycho-women, but I made this post to help those who think they can help them. No matter how hard you try, they will always stay the same. Moving on, I had a few of these psycho-women and I see some of my friends having or even being psycho-women. There’s no helping them for they are the only ones who can help themselves. Also, take note on the fact that they can hate or despise you for trying to help them out of a “lovebug” so it’s always best not to convince them otherwise.
On a last note, the term “psycho-girl” was originally titled to this girl who is desperately in love with some Matt that she makes a video of herself and strips herself naked just to show this dude Matt what he’s “missing”. I am not sure if the issue there is genuine or made up, but her action portrays the extreme cases of being a psycho-girl.
Oh yeah, I remembered about this other breed of psycho-women. I hate this type: They go around sending mass messages or otherwise known as [gm] group messages and here’s an example:
“hey i nid ur p0int 0f view hr! S0 heed pls… Wt if u wnt 2 erase him/her (ur ex) 0ut 0f ur mind wud u prefer 2 delete her/him als0 in ur fs acct?c0z evrytym u saw her/him evn in pix…u hurts..and darn! it’s awwWttz!!! ~s0o0perrr!”
——— I ignored her text ——— Then,
“I w0n’t delete him! C0z il get revenge by being wid sm1 much much better than him! Yeah! Haha!”
In the month of January alone, I have encountered at least 5 psycho-women and damn, they scare me shitless and I get steamed up over their irrational moves together with their rationalizations and futile attempts of getting another person’s attention.
Damn scary, pyscho-girls… I would agree they do not want to move-on especially if its their first love. But what is the difference of love-hate relationships to give and take relationships?
Amen Dar. That pretty much hit the mark in my experience. All the symptoms you listed, unfortunately, can be caused by 4 simple words: “But I love him.” har har…
It would have been funny had it not be annoying. Though I agree with the futility on offering advice… useless.
Fueled by obsession huh? (looks to me the girl was obsessed or something)
Well the funny thing is that being a priest/psychologist (yes i classified this as such because its almost like being at a confession / therapy session) is practically part&parcel of the package… that is called friendship. With that being said, i believe that i too have my encounters of the like.
My encounter was more of a realization of what i read. I read in the internet that women tend to bottle things up (especially negative feelings). Then it takes a certain trigger to make it explode on our face(and i believe that “hell hath no fury than a woman scorned” . I met this girl online who seemed so happy with herself. Its as if there is always a bright sun up and talking to her brightens my day too. After a while she talked to me about a certain break up. She was devastated and since im her friend I decided to be the listener to her story. I did my best to comfort her (though i dont give her advice as i have little to no experience with relationships) and stuck by her side for a while. I tried to get her mind off those things by distracting her and talking to her… then suddenly something unexpected happened…
I realized she is clinging to me. Long story short, i refused her (did not reciprocate her feelings or at least tried my best to show her i am not interested in romance) because 1.) I am not interested in her (redundant lol) 2.) I have an inkling i am just being used…(the good ol’ use someone to make their partner jealous… been there… done that…dont wanna talk about it…) though the funny thing about rejection is no matter how much “cushion” or sugar you put in it there will always be SIGNIFICANT DAMAGE… she went away of course… but that is when everything turned upside down…
She suddenly told me she has begun cutting herself (yes the so called “emo” moves) she says it feels good…(this is where i was dumbstruck and totally creeped out at that matter) I tried to stop her of course but as you said… “she cant be stopped” she thinks she needs it… fast forward to the MAJOR incident… her last message to me was scary… i had a feeling she was gonna kill herself (or something along those lines of self inflicted pain) so i frantically contacted her friends and thankfully were able to respond quickly enough to save her. She was caught in the act carving a letter “M” on her leg (using a knife) and was covered in blood. She was hospitalized for having lost a rather large amount of blood. After recovery, we talked again.. (this time she is taking professional help) i asked her… “why?” her answer was simple… “so he would notice me”… after a few more days she decided to push me away as if i was like a stranger. The brightness is no longer there as she spammed me with so many profanities… So i decided to let her be.
I for one do not dwell on the “shoulda,coulda,wouldas” and of course “what ifs” as i will never know because it is the past…
My conscience still haunts me as i question myself “did i do the right thing?” “was it my fault?” and somehow i felt… “there is nothing more i can do…”
Psycho-girls are scary… that is just the way things are…
FOOOM! MAALAALA MO KAYA! (shouldve put “dear kuya Dar” at the heading :P)
I agree! I’ve become a priest-psychologist a.k.a. “love doctor” for a LOT of times already and it pains me that some people just can not let go of their hang ups over a guy. They keep on allowing the recurrence of methods that previously failed them, to wit, trying to make things work out in futility.
The only scary thing for me here is the fact that most of them are aware of the problem, but refuse to act on it. Albeit the guy really has a part on a girl being a psycho, the girl is the only one who can actually help herself.
Next up: Psycho-GIRLFRIEND
Evil.
lol
hmm…iam really a no brainer at this one but i guess most of the points said are true because im kinda having the same type of problem and yah it never ends and i wonder why??? i try to talk it to her (whatever problmes we are going through, petty things really) and determine the cause and think of a good solution but in the end OMG its as if she never understood what i said or she understood little. And sometimes i ask myself is it me? or her? WTF going through all the bullshit all over again then i realized that being a nice guy won’t give her any enlightenment or whatsoever and i kept on thinking…..what if i turn things upside down and be more heartless…but its like putting gas on open fire and it will burn…so i thought it was a lose -lose situation, if i do this or that it will not matter haha… being a nice guy helps but sometimes being “bad” will do some good in moderation of course. So ill keep on trying different methods until i get it right haha
just when you thought it was bad enough… wait till it becomes… YOUR GIRLFRIEND!!!
ano to horror?
Easy boy, we haven’t gotten to the psycho-girlfriend part >:)
Yes, just when you thought a psycho-girl is bad enough… you get to have a psycho-GIRLFRIEND!
Utter frustration and helplessness awaits.
What you wrote about is a very tame version of another type of psycho-girl I know of. The one I’m talking about is called the “Psycho Bitch Girlfriend From Hell”. That one is a lot more messed up. I remember reading a story where the girl locked up her boyfriend in her apartment and would only let him out if she wanted to. Another one stalked her BF crush for a span of three months just to make sure he wasn’t cheating. The last one I know of always cried out loud whenever she say her guy talk to another girl–even if the it was his own sister.
Damn..They’re not just psycho bitch girlfriend from hell, they’re obsessed freaks too @_@ Parang may mental illness.