Without me, none of these would not work… - Self-centered person (can be anyone)
YEAH RIGHT.
This is an over-estimation of one’s worth. It shrouds one’s thoughts and imposes a certain false reality making one believe that no one is as capable as he. Though this occurs in most people, it is manifested variably. Some may keep this to themselves and agonize about the performance of others, some declare their importance outright, while there are also some who use it to their advantage. Regardless of the existence of different types, these people are self-righteous all the same. Constructive utilization of this mindset yields to productivity while negative manifestation leads to hate and more problems.
The author admits to all the different manifestations and uses them on a case to case basis.
This also coincides with the Messiah Complex where a person believes that he is the savior of mankind capable of exacting great change to humanity, or at the least someone whom people should depend on.
When applied to relationships, what normally happens is that either one takes all unnecessary sacrifices to fulfill one’s craving of importance making his/her efforts to be the only thing that keeps the boat afloat, or one that feels he/she should be treated as royalty by the other party neglecting the fact that relationships are two-way streets that requires sacrifices from the both of them.
So what do they get exactly? They get that oh-so-wonderful-feeling of being needed even if it is not really the absolute fact. Such people try to dwell on their false reality of thinking they are indispensable and that alone makes them feel better already. Though it is not harmful as it may seem, when self-righteousness is excessive and UNNOTICED by the person exhibiting this, it becomes extremely volatile and dangerous.
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Questions to ask yourself to realize one’s worth:
Do people see my importance the way I see it myself?
How long will people mourn for me until they revert to their daily routine when I die?
Will they continue trading stocks tomorrow if I die today?
Am I more popular than Jesus Christ?
Will the Sun rise tomorrow if I die today?
Will time stop tomorrow if I die today?
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I rest my case.
I have to admit… unfortunately i do feel that way right about now…
In thesis, I feel that i am the one holding everything together… being leader and all… maybe because of my “high-and-mighty” attitude that developed mainly because they seem to tend to ask me questions like “pano to!?” and i always end up teaching them how. Almost all decision making is made by me… maybe i was drunk with being the one who “knows” to the point that i think they are stupid (which is really a bad quality especially in leaders).
Especially in the second part where i am the one who at least knows how to do it… or even has a grasp of it… Seeing them not being able to do much (yes i tried assigning them tasks but i am always the one who gets to check at the end and make “improvements”) It only fuels further my self-centered mindset that “they are stupid” and “i am a one-man-three-man team”
Unfortunately due to this fact, i tend to go the extra mile and lots of days without sleep just to get things done right the first time… Though i am stressed out at arguing with one of my members who wants to do something ahead when the prerequisite is not even there yet…
Imagine making a layout when the fundamental structure is not even complete. It is really stressful at times and i lose motivation in my work knowing they know practically next to nothing and would not learn and needed to be spoonfed (this is why i hate teaching)and if we do not… we all fail… and i cant afford spending another term just because of them. (BUHAT!?)
Though after reading this, i realized that i may have become too conceited and arrogant for my own good and need to reevaluate the situation in a more… open light and mind.
But i believe self-righteousness is not all that bad. A certain level of it can give a person a solid conviction and the determination to follow what he believes in and will not bend to compromise his beliefs until the very end…
As I have said, it depends on how we use this conceit. If used constructively, we get positive results more or less.
Acceptance is the first step to recovery.