Author’s note: The topic is about personal experience. This should finally settle the age-old dilemma of deciding whether it should be the first or the next one.

Kung dalawa ang mahal mo, piliin mo yung pangalawa. kasi, hindi ka naman magmamahal ng iba kung mahal mo talaga yung una. (If you are in love with two people, pick the second one because you would not love another if you already truly love the first one) - Taken from a text message, unknown author.

Coming from the “Dar-view” (perception coherent with the author’s opinion), this is appears to be logically sound. One should not look at his/her own ideals of what his/her partner should be, but rather on how satisfied and contented you feel. This may initially seem to ironically debunk my “love is a choice” concept but on the contrary, it actually strengthens it. Having clouded with what may seem to be identical feelings toward two people, we actually see the problem of relying on our feelings such that we realize that we now have to rely on our choice because it would be most unwise to love two people at the same time. It is already a given fact that the one in dilemma had already tried to compare the two people and that it just turned out that they are equal in the overall score. That is when the saying should apply.

Satisfaction.

This is what you should apply. Although one can never be totally satiated, we must try to be satisfied regarding certain aspects of our lives in order to be free from such a dilemma. If you CHOOSE to be contented with whom you already have, then there is no more question to bring up to and that you should then stop entertaining the idea of the second person.

You do not deserve those which you can not keep.

Inasmuch as we can not love two people at the same time, we can not say that “I deserve him” or what I now call the “self-righteous syndrome” (as tackled in my previous post, the self-righteous person irrationally believes that he deserves something greater than what is actually true). You can not deserve two people at once and must ultimately set one free (not unless they are willing to live on a triad relationship, you must be be so lucky!). Admit it, you can not keep two, release one.