anyhow i think love is not really a choice. I mean, 1 argument is that there are couples where the guy or girl is good looking and their partner isn’t. Being a rational being, if indeed love is a choice, then why would you pick someone that is not good looking? yes, the analogy is superficial/shallow but have you considered the possibility that love has its own way of matching two people? another argument: if love is a choice then why is there a situation where people even if they chose to love someone, they cant really force themselves to truly love that person?

bottom line: love is a system that is beyond one’s reach that turns the “you and i” into “us”.

the “choice”, for me, only comes after the falling-in-love stage. the choice of staying in that relationship or not. this is especially true when couples hit rough waters. the choice becomes apparent if you will hold-on to that relationship or not. An example of this is marriage, throughout the duration of marriage, there are times that the couple’s passion for each other subsides, but its the choice of sticking to that promise in front of god or what have you that will make all the difference. Those that choose to stick in that relationship will have the change to rekindle the fire that was once there.

side note: nice posts ha? napapaisip mga readers.

After all, there can never be a clear-cut distinction on anything when it comes to love.

There may be opinions, perspectives, perceptions, or whatnot, but in the end, it will all boil down to the overrated, cheesy, and romanticized “magic” of loving.

nakz naman…

Though most of the times the part where things seem like “there was no choice” is when we are too afraid to face the consequence of that choice. And most of the time “feelings” prevail either for the good or bad of it all.

It is normal to fear the unknown hence we think that a wrong choice was the end of the world (well at one point i did.. but still failed miserably)so we let our feelings drive us…

Love is pretty much an uncharted map for anyone as another person is always unknown and is something we need to discover for ourselves.

If love was purely of ” no choice” then why does love triangles…rectangles.. or any love “polygon” exist? and most of the time it is this (choice A) or this (choice B) or this (Choice C) or so forth… and someone has to suffer… always… (i have witnessed a sad triangle though.. made worse by indecisiveness )

In the light of the phrase “all is fair in love and war” (in a sense both are similar in so many ways ) and in the song “Love is a battlefield” by pat benatar

Parts of the lyrics depict a “choice” and in a battlefield (both real and virtual) it is filled with choices…

“Do I stand in your way, or am I the best thing youve had? ”

In both love and war, we choose to do what we think is right…

LOL to Anonymous because IMO, something that makes sense would only be perceived as conceited by someone stubborn, self-righteous, unwilling to change, and thus would remain a dull stone forever.

Yay Dar.

And sorry, but your hope will remain as it is.

Oh, maybe you are one of my “disappointed friends”?

Anyway, if you make a comment next time, I hope it would be in a more constructive manner like debunking what I say instead of adding MORE CRAP to this site.

Let us do away with bitterness and try to be objective.